It has been stressful times in our house as of late. Honestly, it has been stressful for a few years. Our family has gone through major life changes every year since 2006 and this year will be no different. The stress has really started to come to a head. I think the kids are probably doing the worst simply because they are kids and do not have the life experiences to really put the changes that are upon us into perspective. What do kids do when they are stressed? They act out. Oh how they have been acting out.
The biggest challenges have been attitudes and how the kids are treating each other. myself and my husband. I really do believe in the idea of Karma and what goes around comes around and I was going through every cliché I know to try to help explain that if they would just be nice and stop yelling then maybe everyone else would be nice and stop yelling. Finally I said, “You reap what you sow.” Blank stares was the response.
I asked my 8 year old what veggie she hated the most and what fruit she liked the most. Her reply was cabbage and watermelon. I told her that sowing is when you plant something, reaping is when you harvest. I asked what she would get if she planted cabbage and what she would get if she planted watermelon? Would she ever get watermelon if she planted cabbage? No. I explained that cabbage was bad behavior, bad attitude, yelling, whining and in general being a brat and watermelon was being nice to the people in the house, doing her chores to help out, using an inside voice and not being or swing mean things to people. If you keep planting cabbage all over the house are you going to get watermelon in return? Of course not, you are going to get cabbage. Everyone listened and everyone understood.
I knew that the phrase “you reap what you sow” was biblical in nature so I googled it.
“Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.” Galatians 6:7
I read the full chapter; I had previously read half of it because it is about circumcision† but verses 1-10 really spoke to me. My disbelief in any Gods does not mean I cannot recognize that the Bible was written by intelligent men who understood the human condition, both good and evil.
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9
This alone is probably the best line I have read in the Bible at this point. Its basically saying “keep on keeping on” and that is what we are doing here in our family. We keep working toward a pleasant stress free home and I am sure that at some point we will reap a great harvest considering how long our seeds have been sown.
† I will not discuss circumcision here because it is a hot button subject among parents BUT if you are Christian I encourage you to truly read the New Testament and what it says about circumcision before you subject your sons to this procedure.